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What Happens When You Treat Yourself Like A Best Friend
Spoiler alert: Life gets better — fast, and in surprising ways.
As a life coach, I work with amazing, inspiring, intelligent people. Some have burnt out to a crisp, like I did, others are just looking for a way forward towards a life they love, that feels more authentic.
A key aspect of what I do is offering a safe space for them to air what’s going on and how they feel about it without a filter. And I listen completely, allowing them to feel truly heard. So many of us are hungry for this kind of safe space, to open up and share freely, especially right now.
Sometimes this means I offer lots of questions, sometimes it means letting the person rant at length (never underestimate the healing powers of a good rant).
Very rarely do I offer advice, even when asked for it — it’s not my place. The only advice that matters, is the advice we give ourselves.
Why your coach telling you what to do always backfires
If I tell you what to do, you’ll resent me when it doesn’t work, or herald me when it does. Either way, it means I have responsibility for the outcome. And yet, the only way we can build meaningful change in our lives, is when we take ownership of…
